Thursday, September 18, 2014

friendship...jump ship? please don't.



don't mind my cheesy lil pic I grabbed off of Google images....you get the point...friendship really is such a puzzle. Not just to me but to so many.

But since this is my blog, I'll blog about it from my perspective...

I'm in a weird place with friendships...it isn't as easy as I used to think it was.

I'm a wife and mom first, in that order, so obviously that takes priority...I see so many of my friends and acquaintances doing "friendy" things. I'm not dogging Girls Night out...I love a good coffee talk with a friend, just chilling or having people over to our house. That is supreme. That is life. That is the pineapple of hospitality.

I have an almost 20 year old son. How much more time do I have with him in my house? Maybe a long time, I dunno, but honestly, these kids have grown up so fast, sometimes it takes my breath away....The 18 year old dude isn't far behind and then there's that 16 year old girl who told me a few weeks ago that she'd like to marry at a young age...you go girl! so odd to have teens and younger kids in the same household...but I'm loving it...

A few years ago, nearly two to be exact, when someone that I considered my closest non blood relative walked away from our friendship, with nary a good reason, it got the wheels turning, and they have been turning ever since. I am STILL processing this loss and how to prevent it in the future. Even now, people that I've considered friends don't seem to be my friends. How does a person start weeding out the people? Are we even supposed to do this?? How am I supposed to handle this? I want some deeper friendships. I want to be near people that are seeking the Lord, His will for their lives, far from perfect, not even close and stuff along that vein. Willing to be held accountable, to be real and to honestly love and appreciate. Hard to come by but there are a few of you out there...thank you.

Lots of prayer is the answer. Less is more for me these days...frivolous, shallow friendships are a thing of the past. I've been laying this at the Lord's feet a lot lately and it amazes me the Scriptures He gives in response.

He truly is the friend that sticks closer than a brother. Thank You, Lord Jesus, for being that friend for not just me, but for David, Will, Ethan and Mel. May we teach Levi and Molly this truth. We are clinging to this truth and so many other promises from God's Word as we face some changes in our lives...

In the end, if my kids walk away from our house knowing/living this, we will have been successful parents.

Be a good friend. Be accountable. Get over yourself (these are things I tell myself daily, so I thought I'd tell you too). Love ya!

2 comments:

Southland Gals Made to Crave said...

I love you Laurie! I love getting to know you and your family and I am so happy every time I get to talk with you! I hope our friendship continues to grow very deep roots!

Tesha Papik said...

I hear you!!! I have lost friends to time and distance and it hurts so much. Although I think losing them and not knowing why would be agony. Well I am saying a prayer for you right now that Our Jesus would surrounded you with True, loyal, loving friends! Oh yes and a BIG amen to the kids growing up way to fast I am still scratching my head trying to figure out how I have an almost 17 year old:)