Thursday, January 29, 2015

A letter to my daughters (A charge to young ladies everywhere, really)

Melanie and Molly,

First let me tell you how honored I am to be your mother. I can still remember, vividly, the Sunday  morning that Melanie finally emerged into this world...I was ON CLOUD 9. I sat and looked at her that whole day and then I did what every good momma should do and I took her to Target. (remember when the lady asked me how old she was, and I asked her what time it was???) That's a good momma. :) I say this with my tongue in my cheek, of course.

Being a mom is, I believe, the highest calling. Without mommas, where would we be? I am asking that question seriously...I know not every woman wants to be a momma or is able to be a momma...please know that I feel your pain as well and I do not judge you for your decisions or medical condition etc. 

As your mom, I'm watching you. Does that sound freaky and stalkery? I hope not.... 

Let me be clear...I am watching you, caring for you, so ready to learn with you, disagree with you and then apologize sheepishly. I love you both so much. I hope you know that.....

I also feel for you...being a girl is not easy work. Other girls, ahhhhh. They can complicate things so.

And they I want to help you to be rooted and grounded in Jesus Christ. HE is honestly the Only ONE that will not let you down, and will always be there with you and for you. You already know this on so many levels. Thank you for being such a good example of finding your worth in Him.

Mel, I'm so thankful for your level are so much more matter of fact and embarrassingly more grown up than me on different occasions. Thank you. Your sociability, grace, ability to read people (you get this from me, dear), love for music and tenderness amazes me. 

So far, your dad and I have not encouraged you to "like" any've done that all on your own. I'm glad you like's a beautiful thing to have a "crush". When the time is right, you will begin a relationship with someone that we've gotten to know alongside you and those are exciting times. It's also so funny to me that the guys you "like" are similar to the kinds of guys I'd like as a young girl. haha. The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree...sorry, kid. :) 

Thank you for being open with me about this subject...thank you for trusting me enough to tell me these things and to hear me out when I have some admonitions about someone. 

Let me encourage you to become friends with guys. You have. The guy you marry will be your friend, first and FOREMOST. If you can't do this, then seriously, just stay unmarried. :/ Be friends with guys. 

The girls that come around that don't stick around when something doesn't work out with a guy make me so sad. I know it makes you sad too because here you are, sweet, vulnerable but far from silly, Mel...thinking you have a friend...and all they wanted was a way in to one of your brothers. Lousy feeling.  When you find this out, it hurts...sorry, honey. :(

Don't spread yourself too thin...your dad has really encouraged me over the years to take stock of my priorities and I will do the same for can't do everything, though I know you want to...The things you are involved in (e.g. youth worship, church worship, cell groups, youth group, hang time with brothers and friends) are good. You are sociable, like I used to be....though you have many more opportunities than I today seem to. You are learning to balance all of the good opportunities well. 

In your life, you will be able to count your closest friends on one hand...being best friends with everyone under the sun is just a set up for failure, burn out and no peace. You can't be best friends with every single person you come in contact with...though you will want to and think you can. It is just not possible and if you try, people will think you're a ninny. Go for quality, girl.....

it's not possible or healthy. spreading yourself too thin...quantity over quality. how many friends do you have on Facebook or Instagram, Twitter...I mean, really, it's just a number. Most people are not ok with a person that has 1,265 best friends. It's hard to trust them or feel important to them....don't be that and try to spend little time with people like this.

I want you to have good, deep friendship with one or two, maybe even possibly three (at the most) people, preferably girls right now...though I know Will and E are tight with you.... 

Even then, there is only One friend that sticks closer than a brother..but you know this. Friends could leave, as you've seen with me...and they do. Sometimes for no good reason, or given reason....It's in those times that you will learn to really, truly cling to the One Who created friendship/companionship.

When you spread yourself too thin, you start to hurt others' feelings, those friends that thought they were your "real friend" will get their feelings hurt, even if you don't mean will say things that make no sense, even though you had no clue you said it....

Thank you for being modest, also....I'm so glad we don't have to fight you on your appearance. Yeah, I know, appearance isn't everything...but it kinda is...the fact that you don't dress to show off curves and such is a beautiful thing. You care about how others perceive you and what they see (and we all know how visual men are)...

Purity is so much more than dress, being appropriate with a boyfriend and so will face purity of heart for your entire life. Keep that chin up and never take yourself too seriously...being able to laugh at yourself, get out of bed and choose joy is PURITY of heart at it's finest.

There is so much more I want to say on this...but I think the conversation is open, for anyone. Anytime. 

Being open...being transparent. That's where we are've had to watch me go through some pretty weird, pretty hard situations...I don't think I could've survived them without the love of Jesus and the love of my amazing family. It's hard...never doubt this...real life is nothing, whatsoever, like the movies or the's hard, you must commit yourself to it in ways that you'd never think possible...

I cannot wait to see where the Lord takes you, with your music with Will, with your adventurous spirit, with your insane ability to bring so much joy to those around you....and I'm so honored to be your mom. 

Now, please pass this on to Molly, in case I'm too old in 6 - 10 years...I may need you to remind me to have this convo with her...but I know she is one blessed little chick to have you as a big sis and we are all super blessed to have her unsinkable, adorable personality in our family. 

More on this another time...

Thankful for your contagious smile and Christ-like JOY,
Love Yo Momma

thank you for your patience as I got this all off of my chest. 

Monday, January 26, 2015

A blog post of future blog posts

Good evening, fine blog readers...if you're still there!

All is well here, just busy beyond words! all good things, all good things, but busy nonetheless.

I have a list of a few blog posts I'm mulling over, writing and hoping to post within the next few months...

~A charge to Young Ladies

~A charge to fellow mothers

~Raising Godly children and not beastly children

~Being the Church, what that looks like, why it's so important etc (I'm so trying to figure this out)

~Will and Melanie's cover songs...I will have to find out how to post videos....

~What E, Levi and Moo are up to....Aunt Sherry's release from the hospital and how well she's doing!

~and many more intriguing titles for your viewing/reading pleasure. or not....

In other news, Aunt Sherry brought it to my attention that this day, four years ago, Uncle John moved here from Kansas. It was also the day that we had our ultrasound and found out that we would be welcoming our fourth son. Oh, Jack...I can't help but wonder if your cord was knotted on that day...

he never gave any indication of struggle...

Enjoy these pix below...they are in no special order...but hey, they are bringing me some January joy and that rocks....

We may be separated for now...
Is this true? I think it is.

Enjoy these blasts from the summery past....

I went through nine of the hardest months of my life, heart burn, tears, fear,  more fear and all I have to show for it is this 7 pound, 7 ounce teddy bear, which I am ever so thankful for, honestly. (Thank you, Molly Bears. Your donation is incredible and I love it) I'm also so thankful for the endless trials that the Lord has taken me/us through because of the life of our precious boy. Our precious boy who never even opened his eyes out here, took a breath or clasped my finger in his tiny hand.
sometimes, like right now, I feel robbed. but then I remember that I am the exact opposite of robbed.
So, honestly, I have a  lot on my's all good...I'm so thankful for the situations that the Lord brings me through and to. I wonder what He has in store for me. For us.

I feel like I'm on the cusp of something big...or different.

In light of the stuff we've been through with David's work situations (blah!!), the stuff we've been through with people around us etc....I feel like He's been preparing us for something that I can't even comprehend.

It makes me very "thinky" and almost pensive. I'm not mad, or judgey, just thoughtful....always wondering what I should say, how I can help, how to make things better around us or encourage people who are in different places than me.

My first blog post after this will be addressing young girls...Having a teenaged daughter, I cannot help but face this topic. Please know that, in addressing it, it doesn't mean that I've got it "figured out"...I'm just trying to encourage the young girls that come in and out of our lives...the way I'd like for my girls...if I wasn't here to hash it out with them.

On that note, I'm outta here...hope that this finds you doing well, enjoying this winter time and thanking the Lord for the life you get to live!

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Happy 2015!!

Hello there, fine folks in blog land....

It's funny, I sat down to my laptop, typed out this big ol' mess of a post and though I've "saved" it, I don't know if I will ever post it.

Do you ever feel like some things are just too much? Like, not in a bad way, too much, but just "too much".

The Lord has been dealing with me on so many things. Friendship, being a better wife, mom, sister, daughter, friend etc., praying better and more and longer, how will I spend the second half of my life, and all that jazz.

On top of that, I have been having seriously wild, intense, deep, weird dreams. Like, wake up, breathing heavy because you have failed in some way to jeopardize a mission or something. (remember the hanging tusks from Thursday night)

Ok, anyways....knowing what to blog about and what not to blog about, that's where I'm at.

I'm embracing this new year....hoping it starts out better than 2014 ended. Hoping that some of the situations we continue to face, improve and that the people that have inflicted said situations would have a true "Come to Jesus and Live" moment...

My pre-Jack self would've been scared and doubtful and lacking trust but my post-Jack self says My God is bigger than any and all of these daunting situations we are facing...(and just so ya know, all is well in our home, my kids are thriving, our marriage is thriving and the Lord is at work).

Here's to a promising and exciting new year ahead!!

From our home to yours!